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We're Moving

I'm excited to announce I'm moving my office. As a matter of fact, I moved Saturday!!

Address: 4228 N. Central Expwy Suite 225  Dallas, TX 75206

The 4 story brick building is on the North East corner of Fitzhugh and Central. The signage on the building is UMB Bank and Lee Law. We're located on the 2nd floor.

My phone number (214-521-1278) and email ( remain the same.

The CPA firm of Rick Aishman and I are staying together as room mates. I really love this because Rick and Tom are long time good friends of 30 years plus and I've know Ryanne since she was 19 years old and working for my wife, Carolyn in her design business.

If you have family or friends whom you think can benefit from this ezine, please forward it on to them.

Lastly, if I can help you in any way, please contact me.  214-521-1278



Holidays, The Pluses and Minuses

The holidays are in full swing, and many are enjoying traditions with family and loved ones. But for others, journeying through the holidays can be stressful, sad and evoke reminders of better times. Learning to navigate holiday demands of family, finances and feelings are essential to reducing stress.

How can you manage the stress of the holiday season? Begin by grounding yourself in the here and now, continue regular exercise and healthy eating habits. Be mindful of your alcohol intake.

Below are some additional tips to mindfully make your way through the ups and downs of the holiday season.
  1. Communicate with family and loved ones! Often, we think others should know how we feel which can lead to hurt feelings. Share your thoughts and feelings
  2. Set limits on what you are comfortably able and willing to do.
  3. Create boundaries that work for you. This is an important way to take care of yourself.
  4. Mindfully choose participation in activities that you enjoy and decline those that may increase your stress and anxiety.
  5. Honor and acknowledge you are doing the best you can, some days are better than others and you can always hit a reset button to begin again.

"Dear Candy"       

Dear Candy
            My boyfriend gave me a terrific coffee table book of historic pictures for Christmas. I loved it until, thumbing through it, I noticed that it had been given to my boyfriend by his ex (it was inscribed with the ex's love). Needless to say, I am not keen on having the book displayed on my coffee table and don't know how to bring this up to BF other than getting angry. Got a better approach?

Signed, -mad about second hand gifts

Dear Mad,
Gosh, how is it you haven't told your boyfriend about this? This is an opportunity for you to let him know more about you and for you to know him better.

The following is not a very romantic notion, but the secret to long lasting relationships is the ability for two people to tolerate each other! That's why it's very important to be your authentic self with each other. You want your partner to know who you are so you can see if he can accept and love you, warts and all.

In a calm way, let him know about the inscription in the book. Tell him all the feelings you had when you saw the inscription. Then, let's see what he does with this information.

Good luck!


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Candy Marcum has been counseling, training, writing, supervising and advising people since 1981. She has a special way of touching people's lives that positively transforms them. Her passion, professionalism, enthusiasm and people skills have helped guide her in her life's work as a healer.
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