Introverts - Take Heart
; Your Status Will Improve!
Can you imagine a neurotic introvert appearing in
the TV show, The Apprentice? Pigs might fly! Of course the go getting extroverts are the people we want to see. However, are they the best contributors to the team in the long run?
Research suggest not.
In fact this research article suggests that although extroverts find it easier to make a rapid positive impact, being assertive and dominant, as time passes their status can fall within the group at the same time as the status of the quieter, introverted ones improves. The extroverts can be poor listeners and less able to cope with others being proactive, whilst the introverts quietly get on and over-deliver against expectations.
The 4 Laws of Stupidity
An interesting idea,proposed in a letter to The Psychologist, is that we have spent too much time studying intelligence at the expense of truly understanding stupidity - a human condition that Galen Ives believes has had more effect on events than our intelligence!
In case you can't be bothered to click below and scroll to the relevant letter, his 4 laws are headlined:
1. Stupidity is a universal human faculty, not found in animals
2. Stupidity is not the opposite of intelligence (you can have both)
3. Whilst the stupidity of others is obvious, one's own is entirely invisible
4. Unlike intelligence, stupidity is additive, so that the stupidity of a group equals the sum of the stupidity of its members
Apparently the famous ethologist, Timbergen said' "I believe I discovered the missing link between animals and intelligent life: it is us".
To Shake Or To Hug; That is the burning business issue.
Oh I know......when I started my working life in Yorkshire it were very simple: you shook hands, with a firm grip - no limp gestures here! You were lucky if y' mum gave you a hug let alone a female stranger at work!
Nowadays I find myself not knowing what to do. The first meeting with a female business contact used to be reasonably safe; a handshake. Now even that meeting of strangers can be done with a hug....but not always.
As Dr. Peggy Drexler of Cornell University points out, some women hate being hugged.
What's the right thing to do?
Dr Drexler concludes "...it's less about the point of contact than about the attitude behind it".
Women Just Can't Get Away With Being Tentative.
It used to be true that women in work were pilloried for any kind of proactive, confident action (demonstrating 'agency'). Women were supposed to be more nurturing than pushing and shaping events.
You might think that's all changed and to some extent it has but only to reveal a latent issue.
It seems that whilst we may now encourage 'agency' in all our workers in leadership roles, women cannot get away with any kind of passivity or hesitation. That behaviour is noticed and punished.
However, here's the rub.....men can get away with it. The researchers still aren't sure why.....
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