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Optimistic Thinking and Being a Realist - part 2
It's not in your genes: it's learned

That's right; optimistic thinking is something you learn just like any other habit. Top class sports people are good at this but like everything else they do so well, it takes practice! For great examples of what we trying to illustrate here on the video just take a look at professional tennis interviews when they come around next. You'll hear Murray, Federer, Djokovic and Nadal explain their win or their loss using this kind of thinking.

You may regard it is no more than mental gymnastics or playing with the truth to suit your purpose and so it is. The point is, it's how you can control your thinking to get back on top and start all over again if you've failed or it's how you can increase your chances of repeating a success.

In fact this thinking pattern is about being a realist and facing up to the fact that we win some, we lose some. There is no need for rose tinted spectacles.

If you missed last month's edition and would like to catch up on this subject you can see part 1 here: Makes You Think if not then go straight ahead and take a look at the second part of my interview with Nick Barber - who scores highly on the Optimistic Thinking scale:

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Five-minute favours can reap long-term career rewards.
The Science of Karma.
What goes around comes around - usually.  Professor Adam Grant has just written a book on 'Give and Take' at work in which he makes a distinction between 'givers', 'takers' and 'matchers'. The first two are obvious and 'matchers' are those people who try to balance their give and take.

He reckons employers can advance the business through tapping into staff kind heartedness.

He is a pretty successful person in his own right and sees himself as a matcher. However he does point out the pitfalls of totally selfless giving and says "....because sometimes what goes around doesn't come around. I find that if you want the good guys to win, it requires thoughtful strategies and a set of supportive conditions".

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Healing Smartphone Addled Brains!
Last week I attended a special meeting on Work Life Balance at the British Psychological Society. Try as we might we couldn't stop the discussion revolving specifically around email use and abuse.

Work Life balance is much bigger than this but there is a big issue out there in terms of time management and burn out etc. Modern communication technology tempts many people to be hooked up 24/7 and that has it's consequences.
See my blog rants! Offlining for Curmudgeons and Dumping Email

If you find yourself tempted to keep the phone on and to let email get pushed through, rather than downloading it at a time that suits you, you might want to read this piece!

David Rock makes an interesting point when he says we had lots of crashes in the early days of motoring when there were no rules (speed limits). Today's new speedy toy is the smartphone and, excited by the new freedom people stay connected 24/7 and work as fast as they can. The crashes are less obvious but no less painful.
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