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What's a Disorganized Person to Do? by Stacey Platt:

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Dear Readers,

I’m back from our Florida “vacation.” I received a lot of nice responses from many of you who could relate to my last newsletter about how difficult it was for me to “chill” while on vacation. And even more of you responded to my blog post about how my life has been so crazy, I forgot Passover. You can see that post Here.

The take home theme here is that whatever we do, we never really know when we’re going to slip into the ADD pond of insanity. Whereas most others (without ADD, of course) wouldn’t think twice about finding ways to enjoy free time or figuring out how to juggle all the balls in life, we have to keep reminding ourselves that we always need a backup plan when things get nuts. And to not be so hard on ourselves when it happens.

What’s your backup plan when things go sour for you? Share your stories with me in the Forums so we can connect and chat.

In other news, if you have a child who has an IEP in school and are familiar with the dreaded Team Meetings, here’s a tongue in cheek video I found to cheer you up:

Till next time,

I Hate Clothes Shopping- What’s Wrong with Me?

Q: Dear Terry,
      All of my girlfriends, along with my mother and two sisters, love to go clothes shopping. I detest it. What’s wrong with me?
             - Candice in Dover

A: Dear Candice,
      I understand- I really do- because I also hate clothes shopping and know many women with ADHD who feel the same way. Think about it- we have to walk into a store that is visually overwhelming. We have to make decisions. We have to put on clothing that is often very uncomfortable, as it’s not been worn in and/or doesn’t fit. We have to figure out if things match, are fashionable, work with other things in the closet, etc. etc. It’s an entirely over-stimulating process for many women with ADHD. Here are some tips, some of which are in my book, “Survival Tips for Women with ADHD” to help you:

  1. Go to stores that have personal shoppers. Give her a general idea of what you’re looking for (outfit for a wedding, clothes for work, etc.) and let HER do all the leg work and putting together of outfits. After all, she’s there because she loves doing it *and* is good at it. Added bonus: no charge!
  2. Go with a friend or family member who, like #1, enjoys clothes shopping and who will be honest about what will look good on you.
  3. Shop online. If you have an idea of what you like and what fits, let your fingers do the shopping.
  4. Buy multiple outfits but in different colors.
  5. Go to stores (Chicos is a personal favorite) where the matching options are already laid out for you.
  6. Make sure you buy things that are comfortable. If you are going to itch all day, you are going to hate the outfit and future shopping outings. Buy what works for YOU, not what works for fashion magazines and models.

             - Terry

ADHD or Bipolar? What’s the Difference?

Q: Dear Terry,
      In your last newsletter, a reader asked if her child could have something other than ADHD. You talked briefly about bipolar disorder. What is the difference?
             - Mandy in the Bronx

A: Dear Mandy,
      Some of the characteristics of each can look similar. For example, a child who has very high energy could be exhibiting characteristics of hyperactivity seen in ADHD or…mania as seen in bipolar disease. Children with ADHD can have moodiness just as children with bipolar typically do, but the child with ADHD can often switch out of a bad mood much quicker. A child with Bipolar might have feelings of depression/sadness for weeks on end and can’t be distracted out of it.

Children with ADHD are often inattentive whereas children with bipolar are typically seen as moody and irritable with no tangible cause. Children with ADHD might feel sad because of an incident in school, for example, but snap out of it much quicker.

Tantrums are often seen in both, but children with Bipolar tend to have longer, more intense bouts of it and have a hard time transitioning out of them. They are also often more destructive, and may even harm themselves.

Some clinicians report that children with Bipolar have more intense dreams- nightmares- with vivid imagery containing violence, death and gore.

If you’re concerned that your child might have Bipolar Disorder, by all means, have him/her evaluated by a mental health professional.

             - Terry

Do you have a question you'd like me to answer? Visit the Forums, click on "Ask Terry!" And post your question.

ADD Item of the Week: Kim the Talking Clock
Wow! Lots of uses for this unusual clock: it chimes every hour (good reminder for you to get off the computer). Push the nose and she’ll tell you the time (great for young children). Set the alarm and a rooster crows (fun way to wake up!). Her eyes light up as she states the time…how cool is this? Check it out HERE.

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