Thanks, I’ll Take It From Here

by Rachel Kobin

When I chose Acceptance as the theme for our July newsletter, I thought I knew what I wanted to say. Now that I’m actually trying to write it, I feel lost.

There’s a voice inside me saying, “You should brainstorm, just write a list of all of the reasons you wanted to write about acceptance; you should mind map or make a vision board; you should at least write an outline.” But how can I write an outline when there’s so much I could say? And who is this bossy person calling me “You”?
Acceptance. Okay, I’m going to practice it right now. I’m the Director of the Philadelphia Writers’ Workshop, and I’m struggling to write a few paragraphs about acceptance. I’ll just sit with this struggle and be compassionate with myself. This is part of the writing process, part of any process. But there’s that girl nagging, “But you’re the Director of the Philadelphia Writers’ Workshop. You of all people should be able to write a cogent article.”
That voice isn’t nearly as loud or shrill as she used to be. After years of helpful therapy, I worked with a life coach who helped me have a direct conversation with that mean, bossy girl barraging me with an endless list of shoulds I would never be able to accomplish. I thanked her for her concern, for her attempts to save me from exposing my shortcoming and faults. I told her I wouldn’t be hiding until I was perfect anymore: it was time for me to move on, to open up to the world around me and embrace myself as I am.  
Like I said, that voice is still there. I can hear her now: She’s worried I’ll make a fool of myself if I don’t write an article “worthy” of me. “What will people think?” she’s saying. I reply, “This is what acceptance looks like: letting go of what other people think, daring to make myself vulnerable and embracing my imperfections. Acceptance isn’t organized; no amount of outlining or mind mapping will remove the bumps and potholes from the path to reaching it, but it is scenic. As I take in the variety of vistas, my love for myself and others grows.”
Oh, dang, there she goes again! “You should be writing the perfect article!” Chill girl, I’m sure whatever I write will be good enough. 

Since 2006, Rachel Kobin has facilitated acceptance via creative writing workshops held at The Resiliency Center on Tuesday Nights. She also helps people finish their novels, screenplays, plays, collections of short stories, and essays in the Manuscript Workshop and as a private editor. Learn more at

Practicing Radical Acceptance to Reduce Life’s Suffering

by Katie May

With warm weather in full swing and fun in the sun at the pool, I’m reminded of two summers ago when my son broke his arm. He was six years old and had just learned to swim. He loved splashing around in the water and swimming to each end of the pool. Then, a camp monkey bar accident and a full arm cast put a stop to his pool fun for the rest of the summer.
I can remember others’ remarks like, “That’s awful!” and my son’s tearful plea, “Why did this have to happen?” Not only was he in physical pain, but he also experienced emotional anguish every time we drove past the placid blue water of our pool.
An important idea in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is pain vs. suffering. When you don’t accept reality as it is, it leads to greater suffering. Alternatively, when you can accept reality, or what is, you may still feel pain, but you can avoid suffering. As a DBT therapist, I call this concept Radical Acceptance.
Radical Acceptance means accepting what you can’t change so you can spend your time and energy on what makes your life worth living. It means understanding reality for what it is. Once you understand what you can and can’t change in your life, you can accept reality for what it is.
If we look at my son’s experience in the context of Radical Acceptance, we can understand exactly why it happened. Understanding the logistics is the first step to Radical Acceptance: He was climbing across the monkey bars, which put him in a precarious situation. He fell mid-way across and kept his arms too stiff as his body made impact with the earth.

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Katie K. May is a Licensed Teen Therapist who specializes in offering groups. A new session of Teen DBT Skills Group will begin in August.

Contact to explore whether this group will best support your teen.

Poetry Corner

Receding . . . and a Reseeding

By Dean Solon

sitting. . .
with the quiet,
in the deep.
with allowing the world to come to me,
with being in the world with You.
a peace prevails,
a peace abides and resides.
allowing the world to come to me,
allowing a surrendering to Your will and whim. . .
cravings recede. cravings for anything and anyone,
cravings for outcome, cravings for life and how to live it,
cravings for human beings to be other than who they are.
so, this is who I am, now,
so, this is a sweet spot,
a great good fortune life.
so, all of this is the same as it ever was
. . . everything changing in each and every moment.
so, everything is play in the House of the Lord.
resting, in the center of the cyclone,
the whirlwind tour strangely and surprisingly quieting,
i am nearly silenced
and all in
and already gone


EMDR Basic Training

July 29-31 & November 18-20
EMDR Therapy is a comprehensive, trauma-informed approach that helps facilitate healing of traumatic memories – and provides a powerful and effective approach to resolving the emotional pain at the root of current stuck patterns.  

This EMDRIA approved EMDR Basic Training will be facilitated by Barb Maiberger, MA, LPC â€” the author of “EMDR Essentials: A Guide for Clients and Therapists.” Barb Maiberger is an EMDRIA Approved Consultant, and an EMDRIA Certified EMDR Therapist who brings years of experience, her background in somatic psychology, and an engaging and effective teaching style. Elizabeth Venart, Director of The Resiliency Center and Regional Coordinator for EMDR International’s Montgomery-Bucks Region, is happy to be bringing Barb back to our area for the third time and will be co-facilitating the training.  

» Learn more and register online
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Featured Programs on ACCEPTANCE

DBT Skills Group

Beginning this September, Licensed Therapist Katie K. May will offer a DBT Skills Group for High School Teens and a DBT Skills Group for young adults, ages 18 through 24. 

The skills involved include, Mindfulness, Distress Tolerance, Emotion Regulation and Interpersonal Effectiveness.

» Learn more 

Beginner’s Mindfulness Class

Mondays, 7:30 – 9 pm
Starts 7/25

Many people are convinced that they cannot meditate. Come to this class and discover that everyone can meditate everyday.

Mindfulness Meditation has been scientifically proven to have robust psychological and physical benefits even at the beginning of its practice. 

Learn to use these simple but powerful techniques throughout the day to skillfully meet life’s ups and downs. Jen makes mindfulness accessible to everyone with her light-hearted teaching style. 

$299 per person; 10% bring a friend discount. RSVP required. Space is limited. 

» To learn more, contact Jen Perry, MS.Ed., MA, LPC, at jen@heartfulness or (215) 292-5056 

July Events

Learn more about all of our offerings – and how to RSVP – by clicking on the program title on our online calendar or following the links below.


Most Radiant You:
A Self Expression and Empowerment Group for Teens

A few spaces left, so sign up now!
» For more information, visit this website or contact John Muraco and Elizabeth Campbell at 315-329-9838.

The Greater Philadelphia Holistic Parents Meetup

2nd Saturday of the month, 1-3pm
» RSVP on Meetup

Sound Meditation and Relaxation Experience

Every other Sunday at 7 pm
» RSVP on Meetup

Rumi and Hafiz Poetry Evening

Monthly on Wednesdays, 7:30 pm
» RSVP on Meetup


Rest, Restore, and Move Class

Every other Tuesday at 12 pm
» RSVP on Meetup

EMDR Consultation Group for Therapists

Monthly on Friday at 8:30 am
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EMDR International Association Regional Network Meetings

Every other month on Fridays
» Contact Elizabeth Venart, EMDRIA Regional Coordinator, at 215-233-2002 or Elizabeth@ to learn more.


LPC Supervision Group for Therapists

Groups forming now – Mornings and Evenings
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Interstitial Cystitis/Pelvic Pain Support Group

Monthly on Wednesdays at 7:30 pm

Teen Group Therapy Circle

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Philadelphia Writers Workshop

Tuesdays, 7-10 pm
Pre-Registration required
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Morning Meditation

Mondays at 8:30 am
» RSVP on Meetup


Evening Meditation

Thursdays at 7:30 pm
» RSVP on Meetup

Qi Gong Classes

Thursdays at 2:00 and 6:15 pm
» RSVP on Meetup

Knitting Circle

Monthly on Saturdays
» RSVP on Meetup

» Learn about these programs and more on The Resiliency Center's events page and online calendar   
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Quote of the Month

“The boundary to what we can accept is the boundary to our freedom.”
Tara Brach, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha  


Recommended Book

Radical Acceptance
by Tara Brach
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Articles about Acceptance

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New Perfectionism: a Platform of Self-Acceptance

The Path to Unconditional Self-Acceptance
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