Welcome to the Social Media Chaplain newsletter!
Each month, I’ll send you an email with resources I’ve discovered that are helpful for people giving care to other people in times of hospital and grief. It will be a mix of things to help you, for you to share, and for you to reflect about. If you have suggestions of resources, I'd love to hear about them.
Recent things I've written at SocialMediaChaplain.com :
Responding in times of man-made disasters:
How not to help.
We want to know what to say to help people who are going through difficulties. Here's "How not to help a sufferer":
Free book: 101 Ways to Find Meaning In Suffering
Free Kindle download through Friday, August 16, 2019. This is part of Patrick Riecke's series of resources on faith, sickness, grief and doubt. It's informed by his work as a pastor, chaplain, and director of chaplaincy (and by his work as my boss/friend.)
How one family is helping other families.
Remembering Rowan is a non-profit started to help a couple help others who have experienced the loss of a child. It’s named after their daughter Rowan. Though the focus is on NE Indiana, they have resources for anyone. https://www.rememberingrowan.com
Caring for dementia caregivers
I just read about a church in Georgia who has a dementia ministry.
"The ministry now serves as a model for other churches and includes three support groups, online resources, an educational workshop, and an annual conference for caregivers that attracts more than 300 participants. . . .“This is what Christ has asked us to do,” Welch said. “If we are truly loving one another, we are going to listen to him when he says ‘least of these.’ We have no choice but to step up and answer this call.”
And here's the Dementia Toolkit 2019 from Due West United Methodist Church
Eulogies are good words spoken or written following the death of a person. They summarize one or more aspects of the person's life, talk about what the person meant to the speaker, and point to how our lives have been and can be changed.
It's not (necessarily) the funeral message, where we point to God, but when we know the person well, the two can overlap.
Because most of us have opportunity to offer eulogies, whether at funerals or in conversations or in writing, finding examples can help.
Rob Moll was a journalist and author who, among other things, wrote about dying. (I'm reading his book, The Art of Dying, right now.) He died in a climbing accident in July, 2019.
Because he was a journalist, some of his friends were journalists and editors. Reading their remembrances show us how to write about those who have taught us how to live, how to love, how to work. And they point to the importance of the work Rob did, helping people talk about dying.
"A goodbye to a man who taught us how to look at death" by Bob Smietana.
"Remembering Rob Moll" by Ted Olsen
In closing. . .
Thanks for stopping by. Let me know if this is helpful, and how I can be more helpful. And if you have a moment, answer a question for me: What is one conversation around hospital and grief you find hardest?
See you next month!