Then notice what Jesus says in verse 6, â€œTherefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.â€ God puts a man and a woman togetherâ€”and He doesnâ€™t want anyone to separate them. Sadly, though we start our marriages as one, we often slip into different kinds of separation.
Separate ways. Itâ€™s so easy to embrace separate schedules, cars, and eventsâ€”often for good reasons. But dividing doesnâ€™t always conquer. Watch out! Too much time apart, even doing good things, is an enemy of marital oneness. Ask yourself regularly: How many things can we do together in the next week?
Separate interests. Divergent hobbies and pastimes can lead to separation. Find at least one thing you both really enjoy and pursue it with each other. Expressing the desire to learn, explore, and spend time together will make your spouse feel like number one.
Separate vacations. Itâ€™s not wrong for a guy to go on a fishing trip or for a wife to get away with some of her friends. But it shouldnâ€™t be the substitute to vacationing and spending extended time together. Relaxing and sharing experiences as a couple promotes the marital oneness God designed.
Separate bank accounts. Too many couples have separate bank accounts. Itâ€™s not wrong for a husband and wife to grant each other an allowance, but an effective family budget needs a single operating account. Coordinating your finances and transparent spending will help oneness grow.
Separate beds and separate bedtimes. This is not just about sexual intimacy. Something powerful happens when a couple ends their days, as much as they are able, by going to bed at the same time. Bonding is reinforced when they lay their heads on the pillows together. They can talk about the day, have a time of prayer, and open up to one another.
Every example that can separate marriage is also a place where you can treat each other as number one. Start making a â€œtogetherâ€ list of activities, practices, interests you will pursue with each other this year. Renew your promise to guard your oneness. By next Valentineâ€™s Day, if you make it your consistent priority, your marriage can be a happening one.
Share this plan with your spouseâ€”then commit to carrying it out. It may be the most romantic Valentineâ€™s gift youâ€™ve ever given!